Step 5: Negative Motivation


Welcome to step 5 – NEGATIVE MOTIVATION! If you haven’t completed the previous steps, you can begin at step 1 of my goal setting program!

Step 1: How to Set Goals
Step 2: Prioritize Your Goals
Step 3: Writing Goals Down
Step 4: Positive Motivation
Step 5: Negative Motivation
Step 6: Identifying and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
Step 7: Changing Habits and Behaviors

Your negative motivation can give you a crazy amount of leverage to achieve your goals! There are two primary forces that motivate humans – pain and pleasure. This idea has been around for ages, however few people actually use these concepts to motivate themselves strategically.

So, what all is involved you ask? Well, your next step is to create a list of all the negative reasons or consequences if you don’t commit to your goal. Got your pen and paper handy to create a list?

 

Understanding Negative Consequences of Not Achieving Your Goal


As you ask yourself how you will be worse off not achieving your goal, here are some other ways of thinking about the negative consequences:

  • Fear
  • Sadness, or Anger
  • Worries
  • Negative consequences or associations
  • Failure
  • Pain
  • Dissatisfaction
  • Self-criticisms
  • Negative attitude
  • Negative self-Talk
  • Low Self-esteem

 

In addition to using the words above to help you create negative motivation, I’ve created a list of questions that I want you to run through. The purpose of these questions below is to build up frustration and pain within you.

 

The goal of this exercise is to make you feel really negative about not taking action. The more pain and negative emotions you associate with your present state of not having achieved your goal, the better! If you’re still unsure here, just ask yourself: What really sucks if I don’t achieve this goal? As the saying goes, people want to move away from pain, and move toward pleasure. This is what we are doing here!

 

Don’t go forward until you create this list! Again, use the questions below to help you create a nice strong list of “negative” motivation!


 

Negative Motivation and Goal Setting Questions!


1. What knowledge do I need to obtain to make my current situation seem absolutely hideous and horrible?

 

2. How can I think of my present comfort zone as a dangerous comfort zone? What is risky and dangerous if I stay in this comfortable state for too long, or accidentally forever?

 

3. What is inconvenient about not achieving this goal? What hassles am I creating for myself by not achieving this goal? How am I making my life even more difficult?

 

4. In what way am I living below my standards if I’m not fully committed to this goal?

 

5. How will I feel one week from now, one month from now, or one or several years from now if I don’t achieve this goal?

 

6. How will I be ashamed or embarrassed if I don’t achieve this goal?

 

7. What is most frustrating about not being 100% committed to this goal?

 

8. How is my self-esteem affected negatively by not being fully committed to this goal?

 

9. What is my greatest fear if I don’t commit to the achievement of this goal right away?

 

10. How will my situation get worse if I don’t commit to this goal, and if I don’t achieve it?

 

Alright, did you create a long list of negative motivation? Do you feel tense, irritated, or more motivated to actually get yourself out of this present, stagnant state that you find yourself in? Use those negative emotions to your advantage!

 

At the same time, continue to remember all the positive benefits if you do achieve your goal. Use pain and pleasure to pump up your motivation and goal setting! I promise it works!

 

If you’ve completed step 5, you are now ready to start pulling some weeds out of your mind. In other words, we need to identify all the limiting beliefs you have that prevent you from moving toward your goal! Leap forward to Step 6 – OVERCOMING LIMITING BELIEFS

Step 1: How to Set Goals
Step 2: Prioritize Your Goals
Step 3: Writing Goals Down
Step 4: Positive Motivation
Step 5: Negative Motivation
Step 6: Identifying and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
Step 7: Changing Habits and Behaviors