Step 6: Identifying and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs



Step 1: How to Set Goals
Step 2: Prioritize Your Goals
Step 3: Writing Goals Down
Step 4: Positive Motivation
Step 5: Negative Motivation
Step 6: Identifying and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
Step 7: Changing Habits and Behaviors

 

 


If you have successfully arrived at Step 6 of my goal setting program, – Overcoming Limiting Beliefs, then I know you are going to be a success! Congratulations! If you would like to start at the beginning of my goal setting program, then click here!

 

The first step in overcoming limiting beliefs is to identify those beliefs. Without giving you a long lecture, let me give you two major points you need to understand. The beliefs that you hold are either empowering, or, dis-empowering. It should never be a question of which belief is right versus wrong.

 

Your mindset and your ways of thinking either help you, or hold you back. Your beliefs become your reality. Whether your belief is a way of thinking that will help you achieve your goals or not, you will always find evidence to support your belief, and to have it become your reality.

 

Anyhow, let’s get started identifying your limiting beliefs! Got your pen and paper ready again? Start brainstorming all the thoughts that you feel are holding you back from achieving your goals. Overcoming limiting beliefs requires that you identify all of them first!

 

As always, here is a list below of other ways to think about what limiting beliefs really are. This will help you in creating your list!

 

Understanding Limiting Beliefs


  • Excuses
  • Negative Thoughts
  • Justifications
  • Worries
  • Beliefs conditioned from culture or family
  • Thought Patterns
  • Perfectionistic Thinking
  • Past failures
  • Fear
  • Any other ways of thinking or cognitions

 

So, how is your list of limiting beliefs coming along? Let’s give you some questions as well to make sure we exhaust all possibilities for what weeds are in your mind!


Questions to Identify Limiting Beliefs


1. What rules have I created in my life that could be limiting my ability to get started with my goal?

 

2. What pessimistic thoughts reoccur in my head ever time I think about pursuing this dream?

 

3. What unnecessary assumptions do I make about achieving and committing to this goal?

 

4. What cliches, quotes, aphorisms or other catchy phrases do I entertain in my head that are limiting me?

 

5. What stereotypical beliefs or cultural myths am I allowing to hold me back?

 

6. How might my standards about “what” and “how” things should happen, be negatively affecting my ability to go with the flow and to make things happen?

 

7. Are there any values that I’m holding onto that interfere with me achieving this goal? Do I value something that contradicts what I want to move toward?

 

8. What self-defeating meanings have I created based on my past failures with important goals? How do these meanings limit me and become barriers to goal setting?

 

9. What reoccurring stories, narrative, or mental scripts do I play over and over again in my head that disempower me?

 

10. Do I hold onto any black and white philosophies that keep me frozen in a passive way?

 

Overcoming limiting beliefs requires that find and create new, empowering beliefs. This is not easy to do, but it can be done!

 

Creating New Belief Systems


Overcoming limiting beliefs requires that you replace each of them with new and more empowering ways of thinking! In order to create a new belief, it must be believable.  So, your challenge is to create new pieces of self-talk, perspective, life philosophies, or slogans that really resonate with you on an experiential level.

 

You should not feel defensive or uncomfortable when you read your affirmation. It should make sense to you, and perhaps even feel like an insight that you have discovered.

 

If you have to read and stuff a new belief into you that you don’t believe in, – well – it simply will do nothing for you!

 

Questions to Help Create New Beliefs


1. What adjectives or words could I use to describe myself that make me feel good?

 

2. What evidence do I have that disproves the limiting belief?

 

3. What evidence do I have that proves just the exact opposite of this limiting belief?

 

4. Look for a list of positive beliefs on the internet. Do any of these ways of thinking actually resonate with you and make sense on an experiential level? How can you adjust them to be true for you?

 

5. How can I turn my limiting belief into a new, idealistic way of thinking?

 

6. What is the exact opposite, positive way of thinking about this limiting thought pattern?

 

7. How do other people who hold the opposite belief of me think? What positive ways of thinking are working for them?

 

8. How can I create empowering beliefs by creating my own quotes, aphorisms or life philosophies that will support my goals?

 

9. What is the belief or thought system that I wish I could truly believe? Turn this into a positive affirmation by starting it off with, “I’m in the process of thinking….” Or, simply adapt pre-existing affirmation into a belief system that works for you.

 

10. Think of a person who has already achieved your desired goal. What attitudes, ways of thinking, and mindsets do they adopt in order to be the successful person they are?

 

11. Simply do a solo session and brainstorm out any ideas for new ways of thinking right from scratch!

 

The more unique your new beliefs are, and the more you believe them, the more empowering and effective they will be for you! Overcoming limiting beliefs requires that you commit to reading these new beliefs every day, or every week.

 

You might want to post them in a visible place such as on your mirror! Also, always be on the look-out, and pay attention to quotes, stories or mindsets that are appealing to you. If you resonate with these ways of thinking, then be sure to jot them down in your journal, or write them somewhere visible so you can see them.

 

The more you read these new beliefs, the more ingrained they will become in your subconscious mind. Then, overcoming limiting beliefs will become easier. Without finding a new way of thinking, you will stay complacent in your old beliefs that prevent you from toward your goal.

 

As the saying goes, the thinking that got you to where you are now, won’t get you to where you want to be. New goals require new ways of thinking!

 


Crystallize and Strengthen Your New Belief Systems


The questions below can help you program your subconscious mind to make your newly chosen affirmations and beliefs, a reality! I love these exercises because they are so easy, and they help to increase confidence at the same time.

 

This next exercise can help solidify the process of overcoming limiting beliefs. Overcoming limiting beliefs requires that you think of your belief systems as being like a table top. I’m borrowing this great concept from Anthony Robbins.

 

Think of the table top as your belief, and think of the legs as the pieces of evidence that support your belief. The stronger the legs or reasons behind the belief, the more ingrained the belief system is. What we want to do here, is make sure you have really strong legs or pieces of evidence in place that support your new belief systems. Run through the following exercise for each of your new beliefs.

 

Questions to Find Evidence in Support of your New Beliefs


1. What evidence do I have to support this new way of thinking?

 

2. What sorts of behaviours, activities or actions could I take that would strengthen my belief?

 

3. What symbols or rituals would build my belief and make it stronger?

 

4. What self-talk would help to strengthen my belief system?

 

5. What evidence can I find in successful role models that demonstrate my new belief is a wise one?

 

6. In what other people do I see my belief system being a ‘truism’ in their lives?

 

Remember, there is no such thing as a right or wrong belief or affirmation. Instead, the better question to ask is: To what extent will this belief empower me? Overcoming limiting beliefs requires that find new empowering beliefs, and strengthen them as much as possible!

 

The questions above are only a few questions to stimulate your brainstorming. However, I want you to come up with as much evidence as possible for your new reality which is simply a bunch of belief systems.

 

The more your new beliefs make sense to you, – the more you agree with them, the more you will live by them!! Congratulations on overcoming your limiting beliefs! (Well, at least congratulations on getting the process started. You’ll have to read these new beliefs frequently.) CONTINUE WITH STEP 7 – CHANGING HABITS AND BEHAVIORS

 

What this amazing video by Anthony Robbins on overcoming limiting beliefs!

 

Step 1: How to Set Goals
Step 2: Prioritize Your Goals
Step 3: Writing Goals Down
Step 4: Positive Motivation
Step 5: Negative Motivation
Step 6: Identifying and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
Step 7: Changing Habits and Behaviors