You’ve probably heard the saying by Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you’re right.” This is a little like that because you have a choice, and either way, one of them is going to happen. You can get busy with your goal setting and achievement or go ahead and settle for what life brings you.
When you think about it that way, it seems kind of silly, doesn’t it? You wouldn’t go through life letting other decisions be made for you, right? What you have for lunch, the next car you buy, or what you intend to wear to that next dinner party are not choices you would just let be made for you. In that case, why settle for what life decides to just deliver to you?
- The only reason people often settle for accepting what life simply hands them is that it requires less effort.
Not only that, but some people actually tend to thrive on playing the victim role, and not accomplishing what you want in life can certainly make you feel like a victim. Okay, so everyone is human, and we all make mistakes; we can be forgiven for making a huge one like “life settling.” That is, until we are wise enough to wake up to this fact.
Now that you are hopefully aware of the fact that if you are not goal setting you are life settling, it’s time to put an end to making the wrong choice. Actually, it’s more like it’s time to stop letting the wrong choice be made for you. Get excited and motivated about goal setting and making major changes to your life by reading more of what I have to say in my book.
Smart women are everywhere. They are our educators, career representatives, and mothers. Most of all, they are successful. These women have taken their choices to the next level and have become very successful while doing so.
When trying to meet goals and achieve them, you must also be aware of how to do this. Many people don’t even think of this step in their journey. Here are a few samples of steps necessary to meet your goals:
- Ambition – When you are ambitious, your goals are much easier to meet. This brings the excitement out while delivering the drive necessary to make these goals come true. You can utilize this in your current job or at home. It doesn’t matter what you do for a living as long as you are ambitious.
- Clarity – Mental clarity is needed for anything that involves goals. Smart women know that it takes a clear mind to make things come true. It’s no fairy tale if you know exactly what you’re doing. Clarity brings justice to light while keeping you focused at all times.
- Faith – You always have to have faith. This is something that smart women do not want to lose, as losing it can mean destroying all that you have come to be so far. Achievement for many smart women comes from having much faith.
Keep in mind that all three of these areas need to be taken advantage of, because they are vital to becoming the new infopreneurs in this world. You will have to be ready to take these on as they come, and you will be even more prepared after reading my book.
My book is able to make you see what areas of your life need the most help. It is an essential guide to becoming successful in today’s world.
Whether or not you’re in control of your ‘locus of control’ can mean a lot when it comes to achieving your career goals and achieving life satisfaction in general.
What is ‘locus of control’? It is a personality theory originally developed by Rotter (1954) which states that a person’s place or locus, mental notion, or perception of control is either ‘located’ outside their control or inside their control. The terms external locus of control and internal locus of control were coined to denote these meanings.
Do you feel as though you are in control of your life and your career goals? In other words, do you feel that you can influence the results and outcomes of your life? Are you able to manifest those things in your career and lifestyle that are important to you?
If a person with an external locus of control fails to receive a promotion at work and they blame it on their insensitive boss or too stiff of competition, then they are unlikely to perceive themselves as having a sense of agency and personal power to act on and to control their environment. As a result, their efforts are minimal and their actions to steer their career strategically and proactively are limited.
Likewise, if this same person has an internal locus of control they are unlikely to make such excuses for themselves, and instead they will take 100% responsibility for their situation by strategically problem-solving ways in which they can increase their chances for a promotion in the future, either at their current company or elsewhere.
Do you think you have an internal or external locus of control when it comes to your own life and your career goals?
Just remember, for every single circumstance that you cannot control, there are at least 100 or even an infinite number of other circumstances that you can control.
While there will be events that occur in our lives that set us back in our careers or lives in general, we can still make choices to control our attitudes, choices, actions and so forth. So, instead of focusing on the things that stand in between you and your career goals, decide today that you will focus on your own personal sense of agency, and that you will take action in areas that you can easily move forward with.
Here are three ways to take control of your ‘locus of control’ and to adopt an internal locus of control.
1. Have a vision, purpose and meaning to your life. This means setting goals and intentions for what you want in your life, and creating your own motivation to ensure that you can follow through with your dreams regardless of what barriers you run into. Try my goal setting and motivation program by clicking here.
2. While you might not be able to control a particular situation or circumstance in its entirety, what small pieces might you be able to influence? Dr. Nick Hall in his program called Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life, suggests that taking some little small action is better than none at all, even if your efforts result in no concrete or visible change.
Pull out a sheet and paper, and brainstorm 10 different ways that you can exert some form of influence or control over your environment or situation, today. What haven’t you tried yet? What might work even if you believe it won’t work? What paths are open for you to run forward in? In what areas are you not being held back from achieving your career goals? Can you take a small step there?
3. Talk to someone who can encourage you and help you adopt a new perspective. Whether it’s a friend, family member, counsellor, coach or consultant, you might need someone who can challenge your belief or way of viewing your situation.
Sometimes by adjusting the lenses through which we perceive our lack of control we can find new meanings and new ways of acting on our career path, which in turn can help us build some momentum. Read more about how to overcome your limiting beliefs here.
There are three important goal setting barriers that women must overcome if they want to be a goal setting star! Here they are:
1. Women’s Goal Setting and Perfectionism Don’t Mix
Women’s goal setting requires that women overcome their need for perfectionism. Being a perfectionist and achieving big goals do not go hand in hand. In order to achieve big goals, women must let go of their need to be perfect. There are many pressures put on women today, – to have a great career, a family, to look sexy, and to please other people. I know I’m being stereotypical, but these are just a few of the pressures that women face and need to overcome in order to focus full heartedly on their goals.
For women’s goal setting to be successful, it is important to become aware of how perfectionistic attitudes might be holding us back. Remember, your action steps and results need not be perfect! Just as our families, relationships, careers and bodies are not perfect, neither will the results of our goals or action steps be perfect. Get rid of the belief that things need to be perfect. There is no such thing. The key is to get your goals started, continue moving forward and don’t allow your less than favourable results to hold you back from taking further actions.
2. Don’t Allow Juggling to Distract You From Your Goals
Secondly, women are known to juggle many balls in the air – children, relationships, husbands, careers, care-giving, etc. Women’s goal setting requires that you drop the Super Star mentality because you can’t have everything all at once. The key is aim for some balance, and to take small steps with your goals consistently over time. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither will your dreams be achieved that way either. Start small. Can you find 5 minutes, 10 minutes or even a half hour to get started or to keep going? Your actions need not be significant, but they must be consistent. Take small steps and trust that you can move forward. In no time, you’ll build momentum. Just wait and see!
3. Women’s Goal Setting Requires Time for You!
Thirdly, women naturally face the barrier of taking time for themselves and their goals because they feel guilty. They focus so much on playing the martyr and looking after everyone else instead of themselves. Don’t feel guilty about giving yourself time to pursue your own goals. Historically, women’s identities have been constructed based on who they are in relation to others, and sometimes albeit on an unconscious level, we tend to still base our identity on external expectations and role/relational obligations.
Even as an independent women, I still find myself getting sucked into this mindset as well at times. I too have felt guilty for pursuing my own dreams, but in the end it is worth the effort. Everyone else around you will be happier in the end when you are happy as well, accomplishing your own big goals.
Those are just three of the barriers to women’s goal setting. Stay tuned for more, and I also invite you to leave your own comments as well!
How to Organize Your Brainstormed Ideas and Goals
Do you need a place to capture all your big dreams, ideas and lofty goals? I’m going to share with you my secret on how I organize my many goals and dreams.
I’ve decided to keep track of every whimsical goal that I’ve pondered.
For years, I wasted so much time and money on buying pretty journals and notebooks for writing down my goals. I’d end up not only writing down my goals, but I’d use those notebooks as a journal as well. So, my goals and other thoughts all became mixed up with no real functional order. Also, it became difficult to add in new goals, and delete my old irrelevant goals. It was also challenging to put all my various goals in different categories.
Of course, when those notebooks became full, I ended up throwing many of them out. After all, I had no need to keep all my journal entries, and I figured that I would just re-write out all my goals in the next notebook that I would buy.
You can avoid all these problems by putting together an ‘Evolving Achievements’ Binder . This is an easy to use, practical filing system that allows you to easily maintain, update and delete goals as you see fit. You will devote this entire binder to your goals. Think of it as a landing place for your ideas, desires and wants. The key is to capture those ideas so that you can evaluate them at a later time. I’ve decided to keep track of every whimsical goal that I’ve pondered.
Here’s what you’ll need:
1) A nice 3-ring binder
2) Lined paper to go inside your binder
3) Tabs or dividers
It’s so simple and easy to maintain, and since I’ve converted to this Evolving Achievement binder, I’ve never gone back to using journals for the purposes of organizing my goals.
Also, having the dividers or tabs will allow you to organize your goals by various categories that make sense to you. Whenever you think of a new idea, you simply find the tab/divider that corresponds to that type of goal, and add it in.
From time to time, because we are busy woman, there will be phases in our lives when we get side-tracked and abandon some of our goals. When you have your goals all organized in one spot, it prevents you from misplacing and forgetting or about your goals. It might sound a bit ludicrous to suggest that someone would forget about their goals, but it happens all time.
For instance, think of your to-do lists that you have. Imagine that you’ve written some of your errands on a few sheets of loose paper around the house, while some are in your journal, and others are in your calendar. When the list of errands is scattered all over the place you are bound to misplace, and thus forget about what you need to get done. You easily lose your focus.
It’s really no different with our goals. We need to keep them all organized in one place, – a place where we can be sure to find them! This way, when a period of time goes by and you haven’t attended to your goals, you’ll be able to pick up right where you last left off, without any delays.
The ‘Evolving Achievement’ binder will also allow you to insert your plans for how you’ll achieve your goals. Whenever you come across new resources, services, or other ideas about how you can achieve your goals, you’ll insert them in the same section along with those goals. As we’ll discuss later, once you have brainstormed and set your goals, you’ll need to devise a general plan or at least outline some steps that will allow you start taking actions toward your goals.
Just as people forget about their goals or get sidetracked, the same thing happens even after people have committed to their goals. They start taking action, and then they run into a few barriers. Once they get stuck, confused, or frustrated, they lose their focus, and forget about their plan and abandon it. When your plan is written down, you’ll never forget what your next steps are.
If you have multiple plans written down, you will always have something to return to, along with many other ideas for what you might try next to achieve your goals. Having a binder dedicated to achieving your goals will increase your confidence that you can indeed achieve those goals.
For me, the binder is like a concentrated source of energy that fuels my goals and propels me to take more and more actions toward those goals. This happens because it provides a person with a clarified focus. Everything you ever wanted to be, do or achieve, will be contained within this binder. The ideas have already been turned into something concrete and tangible. This helps you perceive and think about your goals more seriously just because you can see them! Then, the mere act of reading your goals over and over again, imprints them deeper and deeper into your subconscious mind.
So, what are you waiting for? Start your own ‘Evolving Achievements’ Binder today! Don’t loose sight of what is important to you.