Want to know the most important key to having success with your dreams, passion, and purpose? Here’s a hint—it also happens to be the most obvious! The truth is that simply making it a point to follow your dreams, passion, and purpose practically guarantees you success.
Think about it. All the effort and time you invest into being a great professional candidate for some other company could be going towards your own dreams, passion, and purpose. You could be a successful employee for some other organization so they can become successful, or you can invest all of that energy into what you really want to do with your life.
- It almost sounds too easy and too good to be true.
That’s because we’re taught from a young age to have a plan for our career but rarely encouraged for that career to be working for yourself as your own boss. Maybe you aren’t there yet. Maybe, in fact, you are so far from there you feel like you can’t even see it on the horizon from where you’re floating off in the distance farther and farther from shore.
- So, it starts right now.
You don’t have to waste another minute focusing on helping someone else or some other company be more successful and profitable. Smart women know it begins with even just taking out a piece of scrap paper and writing out what you feel your dreams, passion, and purpose are.
Just scribble notes, ideas, or random thoughts. No matter how silly some of them may seem, make it a point not to edit yourself. What you have is your potential dreams, passion, and purpose on paper, and now you can begin to pursue them. When you read my book, you will begin to see the next steps to take to reach those goals, begin to earn income with your passion too.
Everyone has a purpose in life. These purposes vary; there are some women that become custodians and there are others that become doctors. It’s all about the passion and the motivation that directs you to particular areas in your life. These are locations that have one thing in common, and that is goal setting.
If goal setting has been plaguing you for some time and you are not able to do it let alone come up with a master plan, then reading my book may be able to help you get one step further. Here is what you can achieve by following steps for goal setting:
- Careers – Are you where you should be at in your career? More than likely, if you’re reading this, then you are probably not. Let your goals drive you towards a new career and be who you are supposed to be.
- Love – Love can be a nasty four letter word or it can mean the happiest that you have ever been in your life. Don’t let it bother you; all you need to do to find it is to become goal driven. Personal development for women starts with and ends with love.
- Success – By the time you read this, you will be on your way to success. Don’t look back on those difficult times. Think of today as a new day—a day that you will remember for the rest of your life all because you started setting goals.
Remember that all you need to start living is three things:
By reading my book, you will incorporate these three things into your daily lives. They will make you re-think the way you have been living, and you’ll be able to start over anew.
The idea is that you should never have to settle for less than your passion and your purpose—ever. No exceptions. Anyone willing to put a little effort into goal setting and motivation can find, pursue, and live their dream. In truth, following your passion and living your dream is the direct result of goal setting.
Just as we should be breaking down big goals into smaller goals, it is also important to break down the overview of what the results of our goal setting is. If you think about it, you can probably see some of the direct results from your goal setting and achievement every day. Here are some examples of the results you can experience:
- Sense of joy and accomplishment – Even if your goal was just to make it to the gym today, you can feel so much better when you follow through with it.
- Put things in perspective – Your goals may look big; larger than life in fact. Breaking them down into smaller goals and accomplishing them is the best way to feel as though your big goals are obtainable.
- Remind yourself of your passion and purpose – It can become easy to get lost along the way, especially if you have a demanding personal life that needs your TLC too. Goal setting and achievement will help you stay focused, stay on track, and see things through until the end.
It would be great if everyone simply got to live the life they were intended to live if their passion and purpose was delivered to them as if owed to them. However, everything worth having is worth working hard for and fighting for. My book will give you even more insight into not only how to set goals for your passion and purpose but also how to see ahead to the end results.
Do you create time to do what you value? Do you find yourself waking up most mornings and not looking forward to your day? Do you wakeup and ask yourself, Why do I have to do this today? If you have answered yes to this question, you are like many other people. We live in a world that is full of things we feel we should be doing. Or even worse, we feel that we have no choice and that we have to be doing these things.
We have the power to choose what we want our lives to be filled with. It is critical to remind yourself that all things you are spending your time on are decisions that you chose. No one truly forces you into your unique situation. Whether your decisions occur consciously or as an automatic response to your previous habits, you are still responsible for making your decisions. You are responsible for the rules and beliefs held in your own brain. That is not to say that other people don’t influence your decisions and thoughts, because I will admit that people do influence others’ decisions. What is helpful to remember is that you are ultimately the only one who is in control of your decisions, and you are the one that lives with the consequences of your decisions. Not others.
In my experience, I have always found it helpful to leave open a small portion of time in my schedule to do the things that are important to me. There is nothing worse than waking up in the morning and thinking of all of the things you have to attend to, but sometimes aren’t interested in doing. I love Eddie Cantor’s saying:
What’s the use of running when we are on the wrong road? There’s a big difference between being busy and being fulfilled. Eddie Cantor makes my point clear – Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.
The point here is that when you are always busy and tied up to your regular scheduled routines, you have no time to step back, reflect and evaluate what’s actually going on in your life. Sometimes people get so caught up in their regular routines that they miss out on, or forget about the potentially meaningful opportunities in life, and fail to recognize their other talents, desires or callings. When we create a little bit of extra time for ourselves, we honour a space in which we can make more conscious and effective life choices, which consequently empower us and give our lives more vitality.
Decide today that you will not over commit yourself to a schedule that is jammed packed with “shoulds” or activities that you feel pressured to participate in. I think that over-commiting ourselves can be one of our biggest stressor. Decide today that you will not be in such a rush to get to your destination.
There’s a famous quote that says, Life is a journey, not a destination. Slow down and learn how to enjoy life along the way! Realize that you will always be trying to achieve something, finishing a project, putting out a fire, or attempting to make a life transition. Life will always present circumstances to keep you busy, distracted or occupied with important things. Do not be in the habit of putting your passions off until ‘tomorrow’. Ultimately, tomorrow is today!
Perhaps you are already busy with meaningful endeavours, but you never take a break. Be careful to not get stuck in the vicious cycle of achieving one destination and then immediately running for the next. Take time to learn how to enjoy your achievements. Do you work or run a business so that you can ‘get by’ and live, or, do you live to enjoy the process of the beautiful moments of your work? If you are a workaholic now and want to slow down your pace of life, it is possible. It’s not easy, but it is possible. The best way to get started is to take baby steps. You have to understand that overworking and over-committing is a learned habit. We must learn to question why we do the things we do. Are we doing them out of guilt, pressure or prestige? Are we doing it not because we like it, but because we just want the credential for it? Or do we like what we’re doing but we are spending too much time on it?
How do you know if you’ve over-commited to something? The answer is simple. You always find yourself wishing you were somewhere else instead of where you actually are. You wonder why you joined what you joined. You wonder why you are doing it all. Perhaps you did not leave yourself enough time to make a good decision, and instead immediately jumped into something spontaneously.
Be very careful in your decision to commit to something. that will take up a considerable portion of your time. When you are thinking of taking on more work, joining a club, organization or are planning to register for a course, think your decision over carefully in the beginning. Examine your reasoning behind your decision. Is this really what you want to do? Is this activity going to bring you closer to your goals? Will this make you happy? Who’s idea was it for you to engage in this anyways? Was it your own or someone elses idea? A lot of time people make commitments because they think they ought to. They are constantly concerned with peoples’ judgments around them. A person takes on a new project at work thinking about how it will boost her resume, which will land her a higher-paying position within her company. Just thinking about carrying out the tasks makes her feel sluggish and de-energized. One must ask one’s self what alternative, creative options are available that would be a more efficient means of achieving his or her end goal.
Don’t engage or participate in things simply because you think you should. Your passion will never be unleashed because your energy or vibrational level will be too low. Instead, engage yourself into activities that inspire you and would hold you enthusiastic! Many times we find ourselves committing to things for other people’s sakes, and not our own. We do things to make other people happy and forget our own needs and wants.
What will happen if we don’t regularly incorporate this special time into our schedules, whether it be time to pursue our passions and desires, time to reflect and explore new opportunities, time to relax, or just plain and simple quiet time? The answer to that question is that we might develop a sense of unworthiness. When we do not schedule time for ourselves we are unconsciously telling ourselves that we are not worth it. We are not worthy enough to do what we want to do. This will result in low self-esteem and lead us into the cycle of not believing in ourselves. When we don’t believe in ourselves we end up following the mainstream footsteps of society and engage in a way of life that is already designed for us.
There is a saying, Design your life before the circumstances of life design it for you. Let this idea be something you ponder when you make decisions with how you want to spend your time.
Reflective Questions – Create Time to do what you Value:
1. How can I give myself permission to create the time and space needed for self-reflection and/or the pursuit of meaningful endeavours?
2. What do I always wish I could give myself time for?
3. What do I admire about how other people spend their time, and how could I incorporate something similar into my own lifestyle?
4. When I consider the possibilities for how I might use my extra time, which uses of time will I immediately look back on and regret? Which uses of time will I look back on and not regret, but be proud of for giving myself permission to use my time in that way?
5. What limiting beliefs or rules stand in my way of giving myself permission to spend more time doing what I value?
6. If my morals stand in my way, how can I be moral and still give myself the time that I need?
7. Am I worried about what others might think regarding how I want to spend my time? If so, how can I overcome other peoples’ judgments regarding the way(s) that I desire to use my time?
8. What excuses, reasons or justifications do I use to prevent myself from having time to focus on what is important to me? Although these reasons are all ‘valid’, you must realize that they still prevent you from being able to spend your time in your own personal way.
9. In what ways do I conform to social norms when it comes to how I spend my time? Which of these are truly necessary?
10. How will I raise my standards when it comes to freeing up more time?
11. What things do I want to enjoy and have time for in my life, but am avoiding taking responsibility for?
12. In terms of how I spend my time, which habits in my life have I absolutely got to get rid of?
13. Which patterns of my time use drain my energy?
14. What is out of balance with respect to how I spend my time?
15. Which decisions have I been putting off regarding how I am spending my time?
16. How does thinking in ‘black or white’ or ‘all or nothing’ prevent me from taking time out for myself?
17. How do I want to design my life?
18. What could I do or focus on during this extra time that would give me momentum and a forward moving feeling in life?
19. What things or activities am I currently pursuing or participating in that I don’t feel good about?
20. Are there any particular people whom I constantly give my time away to, or spend too much time with when I don’t want to?
21. How can I raise my standards or expectations about how I use my time?
22. If I can give myself this needed time, how will this produce a positive domino-effect on the other areas of my life?
23. Who will I be a great role model to, if I start using my time in this purposeful way?
24. Who will admire me for what I accomplish or do with this time?
25. How might valuing my time in this particular way change my life forever, in a positive way?